Every human wants to be seen and heard. With a fascinating outfit, a charismatic personality or a charming smile you could attract immense attention. However, to be the most interesting person in the room requires having a deeper connection with an audience—one that gives validation that our presence matters—and well, that comes from within.
The process of being the most interesting person in the room starts before we ever step one foot in the door. To bring riveting energy into a space, we must know that we have it and then we must own it! Maya Angelou said it best—”My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style.”
To become unforgettable, our style and essence both need to be: intentional, responsible and comfortable.
Here are three ways anyone can embody the possession of all the qualities necessary for not just attracting attention everywhere you go, but also becoming the most interesting person in the room.
Be Intentional. Being intentional through our style and essence means making deliberate choices to reflect what is most important to us. Consciously becoming intentional with our thoughts and actions can help us maintain a positive mindset, reach goals, gain more clarity and be more present. We can also increase our focus, commitment and bring more purpose and meaning to our lives when we are intentional. But the truth is, we can only give away what we possess. Therefore in order to exude good intentions, we need to first have good intentions.
Ways to activate being intentional:
• Meditate on things that are noble, pure and lovely.
• Choose to be kind. This creates good karma.
• Be forgiving towards yourself and others.
• Pay attention to what is creating peace or pain.
• Dress in colors and clothing that feel joyful to you.
• Make time for selfreflection.
Be Responsible. Standing out and catching the attention of others by way of style comes with a certain level of responsibility. You are responsible for discovering the fashion items that accentuate your individual style. This includes choosing colors, patterns, textures and silhouettes that are flattering and attractive. We have to also do the internal work of making peace with our quirks and having a genuine zest for life.
What we wear directly influences our thoughts and behaviors. It also impacts how others perceive our personality and actions. People decide who we are within seven seconds of a first impression.
If you successfully become a source of fascination and desire to hold that attention, then you also become responsible for sharing what you know, what you’re curious about or what you find concerning. What are some of the interests, hobbies, causes, places or things you care about the most? If you don’t know, do some homework. Putting time, effort and incredible thought into our style and essence before we show up is not only being responsible, it can lead to consistently being the most authentic and engaging person in the room.
Be Comfortable. Get comfortable being comfortable. Cute shoes don’t have to hurt. An attractive way to command a room and show confidence is by pulling together clothing, accessories and shoes based on your personal style preferences. In other words, wear whatever makes you feel your best!
The internal power of self-acceptance reflects confidence throughout our style and essence. Being comfortable with ourselves means not comparing ourselves to others and feeling content with whatever choices we’ve made in life. It means accepting our God-given features, having good self-esteem, giving ourselves grace concerning our weight and loving ourselves knowing we are a work in progress. When we value who we are and refrain from judging ourselves or others, we can take comfort in our own beauty.
The truth is, each of us has a distinct style and purpose that can evolve into being the most interesting person in the room. Simply remember to own it, inside and out because, “style speaks louder than words” TM in every environment. X
Angianein Wallace is the CEO of 8th Reign, an Image and Style Consulting Agency. She is an image consultant, professional wardrobe stylist, creative director, and thought leader. Her agency is designed around the belief that “Style speaks louder than words” TM.